Quintessential Character Type 2


Character Role
Helpful Hero, Impartial Altruist, Caring Person, Nurturing Helper, Effusive Friend, Possessive Intimate, Self-Important Saint, Insufferable Martyr, Self-Deceptive Manipulator, Coercive Dominator, Psychosomatic Victim, Bleeding Heart, Caregiver, Caretaker, Doctor, Do-Gooder, Giver, Good Samaritan, Healer, Humanitarian, Medic, Mother, Nurse, Philanthropist, Psychiatrist, Social Worker

Ego Fixation
Flattery, Ingratiation

Sacred Ideal
Freedom, Free Will

Basic Desire
To feel loved, to feel appreciated, to feel needed, to help others

Basic Fear
Being unloved, being dispensable or unneeded

Deny own needs, self- sacrifice, manipulation



When this character is pressured or threatened, he becomes angry and aggressive.

When this character is relaxed and secure, he tends to his own needs or allows others to take care of him for a while.

This character's focus goes to flattery, the needs of others, and being helpful.

This character's flaw is based on the incorrect belief that personal fulfillment comes through giving to others. He tends to repress his own needs to do what he feels is the right thing, giving to others. He needs to learn the correct path to personal fulfillment, love, and respect is through focusing on his own needs and learning to receive.

Self Definition
I am caring. I am nurturing. I am helpful.

This character pours a lot of energy and love into their personal relationships and they expect to be appreciated for their efforts. The act of helping others makes him feel good about himself. However, all this helping can sometimes create a sense of entitlement. He can become intrusive and demanding, if his unacknowledged emotional needs remain unmet. 

Because he focuses so much energy on helping others meet their needs, He can forget to take care of his own needs. This can lead to emotional exhaustion and emotional outbursts. A healthy character of this type understands, he can only be truly helpful to others if he remains balanced and centered in himself.

This character never achieved a solid connection with his protective father figure. Yet, the father figure didn't dissociate completely. This father figure was around, but somehow inaccessible. 

As a result, this character began to identify with the care-giving mother figure as a way to gain safety in the family environment. In the process, his self-love became conditional. He has to consistently prove to himself he's a caring and nurturing person in order to maintain self-worth. 

As an adult, he's found what he needs by serving others in some capacity. The introverted type, however, is likely to move around a lot, from job to job, city to city. He's always been the caregiver in a relationship, but rarely taken advantage of.

Having, at least, an average intelligence and education, this character tends to focus on helping individuals and large groups. He may still be involved in helping groups he helped in college. He also has diverse interests in many different areas.

At work, this character is helpful, openhearted, and relationship oriented. He wants to bring out the best in others, without expecting much in return. He's attracted to jobs that help those less fortunate.

This character can be helpful and supportive in a relationship. Other people are attracted to his giving nature, but eventually feel there may be strings attached, something may be expected in return. He tends to be attracted to Type 4s for friends and generally avoids Type 8s.

With Type 1 - The Reformer
Type 1s may view this character as being too dependent. This character's honest advice can be taken as criticism by Type 1s, causing conflict. This Character feels unappreciated and judged for being too giving. Discussions about who cares more can escalate, especially since neither character expresses needs very well.

With Type 2 - The Helper
This character and Type 2s connect in appreciating the nurturing and sensitivity in each other. But, having little awareness of their own needs. They can become overly attentive to each other, competing for approval. Emotional turmoil can occur around giving and receiving or who is dependent on whom. Hurt feelings may lead to desperate and emotional outbursts.

With Type 3 - The Achiever
This character and Type 3s connect in their pursuit to keep life positive, usually with this character supporting Type 3's goals and accomplishments for which they both hope to be appreciated. Conflict occurs when this character perceives Type 3s as trivializing feelings and relationship issues, while Type 3s starts to perceive this character as being unfocused and needy. This character may begin to feel rejected, while Type 3s feels unrecognized and impatient.

With Type 4 - The Individualist
This pairing can be interesting since both characters are emotionally needy. This character can get caught up in the emotions and intensity of Type 4s and lose the sense of separateness. This character may get impatient with the self-absorption of Type 4s who, in turn, can be put off by this character's inability to stand alone. This character can feel unappreciated and erupt in anger, while Type 4s feels rejected and pulls away. 

With Type 5 - The Analyst
This relationship is an attraction of opposites. Type 5s appreciate this character's support. This character appreciates Type 5s's intellect and restraint. Yet, this character's helpful energy can feel intrusive and demanding to Type 5s, who then withdraws. This results in an escalating cycle of intrusion by this character and withdrawal by Type 5s. This character eventually feels rejected and withdraws all support.

With Type 6 - The Loyalist
This character helps Type 6s who seems to need support and reassurance. However, Type 6s starts to question this character's motives. While appreciating this character's support, Type 6s may back off from too much attention. This character, while appreciating Type 6s's loyalty, may feel rejected by Type 6s. Type 6s may become accusatory, while this character gets emotional.

With Type 7 - The Enthusiast
Both characters love freedom and the good life. However, this character can find Type 7s overly self-serving, not paying enough attention to the relationship or reciprocating in give and take. This character can then feel neglected and get demanding. Type 7s can find this character overly focused on others and too needy. Feeling smothered and limited, Type 7s can respond with escapism and rationalization and this character with angry outbursts.

With Type 8 - The Challenger
This character is attracted to Type 8s's strength and support. Type 8s is attracted to this character's attentiveness and helpfulness. However, Type 8s may find this character to be too dependent and approval-seeking, while this character can perceive Type 8s as overly confrontational and dominating. When this character tries to soften Type 8s and assert control, Type 8s resist and moves against containment with more confrontation.

With Type 9 - The Peacemaker
This character and Type 9s get along because they are both sensitive and accommodating. Conflict arises when this character gets intrusive in an effort to get Type 9s to set priorities, take initiatives, and express what Type 9s needs. Type 9s tries to keep things comfortable and pleasant which can frustrate this character. Type 9s can become stubborn and resistant in response to what feels like pressure and directives and can begin to check out of the relationship.

Introvert Type
Healthy (usually Hero or Love Interest)
This character is a real people person. He's able to see the good in almost anyone. He's giving, warm, and accepting. He's driven by the need to be loved and appreciated. He loves to help those in need, but can do so without too much personal involvement. He is generous to others while ignoring his own needs. 

This character believes that selflessly helping others is the way to find the love he seeks.He believes people will love him only if he is kind, warm, and giving. That's not to say, he isn't warm and giving. He is, but to everyone but himself. 

The introvert type is sometimes distant and not relationship oriented, which means he's a generalist regarding who he will help. It's the action of helping others that gives him an opportunity to be loved. His attention isn't focused particularly on any one person or kind of person.

Dialogue Style
This character likes to express his love for others. It comes easily for him. He always sees the good in others, usually in the context of some action. He's likely to discuss relationships freely. However, this  introvert type will be careful to establish boundaries. This character is, after all, in it for his own desire to be loved and not necessarily for a one-on-one bonding experience. At times, he can sit back and feel good about what he accomplished that day. He'll almost feel self-satisfied. However, it's short-lived. Inevitably, doubts about being loveable return and gnaw at his consciousness. 

Dialogue examples: 
"You did great."
"I love how you work."
"If you ever need help, I'm here."
"My home is your home."

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Average Health (usually secondary character)
This character is generally a warm and caring person, looking to earn love by being incredibly giving. He wants to be recognized as indispensable. He is looking to reach out and help people as a way to get his needs met by others. 

He surrounds himself with those who become increasingly needy. He tends to reach out to those who are very needy, the addict, the sick, and the wounded, those that need help, but are unlikely to be able to give anything back. This creates frustration and internal pain, even low self-esteem. 

He just can't seem to find enough love, regardless how giving he may be. He's likely to be an enabler in a relationship, always giving, never receiving,  and feeling trapped by it all. At times, a sense of entitlement can cause him to become manipulative in order to get the sympathy he desires. 

Dialogue Style
This introvert type is a little more detached. He'd talk in general terms about how unfair life has been, how he gives and gives and never gets. This whole process, on the average level, has become tiring. He's rebelling against it, but still trapped by it. He's unable to break the cycle. Frustrated, he may begin to demand love and appreciation.

Dialogue examples: 
"Why can't you love me?"
"I give and never get."
"After all I've done for you."
"What's wrong with me?"

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Unhealthy (usually Villain)
This character was once a very giving person. However, years of constant giving and never receiving has caused an internal frustration that can no longer be ignored. He's enraged by the ungrateful response from others, to whom he's given so much. 

At first, this internal rage appears in short bursts. Eventually, it seizes control. It becomes extremely destructive and hysterical. 

This introvert type is likely to strike at the material objects and physical well being of those he feels have slighted him. Feeling victimized, he feels justified doing whatever it takes to even the score. Possibly, psychosomatic illness will surface. 

Dialogue Style
This character has reached the end of this rope and doesn't understand what happened. He gave so much, helped so many, and still no one ever cared for him. He'll attack the ones closest, sometimes irrationally. He may turn on someone, who he's just helped, instantly. 

Dialogue examples: 
"Why not me?"
"You're going to pay."
"I've done everything for you."
"What have you done for me?"

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Story Arc Improvement
This character moves toward a healthy psychologically state. He learns self-love is not dependent on whether he helped anyone that day. He finds an unshakable self-love, which allows him to serve others while being secure enough not to need it. This character reconciles with his inner feelings, discovering he's worth loving. He learns giving without receiving doesn't bring freedom and fulfillment. Avoidance or neglecting to fill his personal needs can prevent freedom and fulfillment. During his story, he might decide to choose himself over helping someone who could harm him,

Story Arc Unchanged
This character is usually a helper to other characters. So, he doesn't usually change. If he does change, this introvert type is likely to snap and become self-sufficient, deciding he doesn't need anyone to need him. He'll stand up for himself and let go of giving to those who can't reciprocate. Alternately, he'll take a dive into the unhealthy, deciding that reciprocal love is impossible. Likely, he'd attempt to force others into caring for him by becoming psychosomatically ill or purposely injuring himself. Being cared for may not be love, but he figures it's as good as it gets.

Story Arc Decline
This character moves toward an unhealthy psychological state. Reacting to an ungrateful world, he'll become self-important, physically violent, and possibly murderous. He'll strike out at those who were the closest to him. He'll attack in an attempt to get whatever he feels is owed, usually in the form of stealing a physical token or taking a life.

Extrovert Type
Healthy (usually Hero or Love Interest)
This character is genuinely giving, accepting, and warm. He calms inner fears of being unloved by helping others. He sees the good in almost anyone, even when no one else can.

He is personally involved with the person helped, looking for and finding an emotional connection, but tends to neglect what's best for himself. He perceives his own personal wants and needs as selfish. This character loves himself only when giving. 

This extrovert type is people-oriented. He'll focus attention on a specific kind of person and for a particular reason. For instance, he may be a caregiver for an invalid or cancer patients, because a close relative had cancer. There's usually a personal connection to what he is does and why he's does it. 

Dialogue Style
This character is very supportive of others. He is genuinely caring and this extrovert type is very willing to make that verbal. He'll give compliments and terms of endearment very easily. Personal needs of safety and protecting the psyche have been put aside. He's daring in reaching out to others and very positive. He perceives remarks intended to humiliate or criticize as harsh. Not only does he refuse to them, but he'll attempt to prevent others from using them as well. 

Dialogue examples: 
"You did a great job."
"You are a fantastic person."
"I love you."
"If you ever need help, I'm here."

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Average Health (usually secondary character)
This character fears being unloved. He desires to be recognized as indispensable. He believes being very giving is the best way to make himself attractive and lovable. He wants to portray an image of being a wonderful and desirable person. 

This extrovert type is people-oriented and, as such, needs a personal connection. This usually manifests itself in sexual openness. He's easily swayed by compliments, however insincere, which makes him particularly vulnerable to those people who will use and discard him. 

Self-esteem is a real issue for him. This character is willing to compromise himself to get people to like him. However, a sense of entitlement can cause him to become manipulative to get the sympathy he desires. 

Dialogue Style
This character is quick with a compliment and terms of endearment, even proclamations of love, but a definite neediness surfaces in almost every line. 

Dialogue examples: 
"When will I finally be loved?"
"Why can't I be loved?"
"After all I've done for you."

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Unhealthy (usually Villain)
This character has always been a very giving person, always had close relationships with people. However, years of constant giving and never receiving has caused an internal fury that can no longer be ignored. He possesses an opportunity to be the extremely cruel. Because he's always seemed so warm and kind, others have opened up to him and made themselves vulnerable to his fury. 

He's finished with giving freely and now desires payment. If he doesn't receive the reciprocation he seeks, he'll attack on a personal level. At first, this fury comes out in irrational bursts. Eventually, an all out brutal, even murderous, assault will appear. 

Dialogue Style
This character has always searched for that close, connected, love relationship but never found it. As a result, he's begun to hate others, especially those he felt close to. Once he establishes this new cruel streak, pockets of emotional pleas for help may emerge. He's sorry and asks for help in indirect ways. He is sinking and knows it. This could offer some great dialogue possibilities.

Dialogue examples: 
"I never liked you."
"You've always been an idiot."
"Why don't you go cry to your mother?"

Internal Dialogue: 
"I feel good when I'm helpful."
"I must help others."

Story Arc Improvement
This character moves toward unconditional self-love. He discovers his flaw and learns that he is worthy of being loved simply for who he is and not what he does. He doesn't have to constantly give to be loved by anyone, especially by a protective father figure. There's a very real connection to the relationship with the father figure in this healing process. He either connects with the father figure, a surrogate father figure, or discovers he doesn't need to please anyone at all to be loved.

Story Arc Unchanged
This character is usually a helper to other characters. So, he doesn't usually change. If he does change, this extrovert type will likely move toward being more healthy. He'll discover self-worth without being so giving of himself. He'll find unshakable self love. This will save him from the trap he was in. Resultantly, he may finally open up to someone who is not so needy and will give to him. Alternately, he'll slip further into unhealthiness. This usually results in despair. He becomes so desperate to be cared for it causes psychosomatic illness. He may even injure himself, forcing the world to take care of him. 

Story Arc Decline
This character moves toward an unhealthy psychological state. It begins by furiously lashing out against those he once held so close. His needs not being fulfilled by others, and an inability to meet those needs himself, pushes him toward brutal retaliation, wherein he seeks to get that reciprocation by any means necessary. At the worst, he gives up any hope of reciprocal fulfillment and desires a pound of flesh. Driven to destroy, but unable to pull it off, he'll collapse in on himself. Eventually, he may suffer psychosomatic illness. He may even become catatonic and separate from the world.

Additional Resources
The Quintessential Character 

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